Communication Tips Wednesday [6]:
Type 3 (Striving to feel Outstanding)
  
Type 3s focus on achievement, efficiency, and being successful: they scan for opportunities to excel, impress, and make things happen, driven by a strong pull to feel outstanding, capable, and valued for their results.
When overdone, this can slide into image management, self-promotion, and cutting corners, which can strain trust and authenticity in relationships.
 
Tips for Type 3s:
 
  • Stay aware of your tendency to focus on results and image - your real value isn’t just in what you achieve, but in who you are.
  • Practice being more authentic and personal in conversations: share something that matters to you, not just something that makes you look good. Let people see your real challenges, not just your successes.
  • Make space to reveal more about yourself, including your feelings, doubts, and vulnerabilities. This builds deeper trust and connection, not just admiration.
  • If you find yourself avoiding conflict or difficult topics, try gently naming your own concerns or asking others about theirs. It’s okay to slow down and connect, not just move forward.
Tips for communicating with Type 3s:
 
  • Appreciate their results and efficiency: “You always find a way to get things done; that’s a real strength.” Threes respond best when praise is specific and tied to real achievement.
  • Keep conversations upbeat and focused on the positive; avoid lingering on problems or obstacles unless there’s a clear path forward.
  • If you need to discuss something difficult, frame it as a challenge to solve together, not a personal failure or a reason to slow down.

 

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