Communication Tips Wednesday [7]:
Type 4 (Striving to feel Unique)
 
Type 4s tend to move between withdrawing into themselves and communicating with great passion and strong opinions. They often “feel people out” at first, looking for signs of authenticity and depth before they fully open up.
 
Tips for Type 4s:
 
  • Notice when your search for what is “real” slides into quietly testing people or dismissing them as shallow too quickly. You can still protect your depth without assuming others have none.
  • When you feel a strong emotional reaction, try stating it plainly instead of wrapping it in mood or indirect comments. Clear, simple language helps others meet you where you actually are.
 
Tips for communicating with Type 4s:
 
  • Signal authenticity: speak honestly about your own experience, and don’t be afraid of naming real feelings or harder topics. Fours are often put off by what they experience as banal or superficial and drawn to conversations about meaning, identity, and what’s really going on under the surface.
  • Allow space for their shifts between quiet and intense; don’t force cheerfulness or quick fixes when they are in a more reflective or melancholic place. Instead, show you are willing to stay present and curious at depth, not just at the surface.
 

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